Why Am I Still Single?

It isn't a mystery why so many savvy, sophisticated women wonder why they're still single - you probably being one of them, since you're reading this article. Sure, they say they'd very much like to meet someone new... but when you ask them how many new men they've met in the past few months, you'll be lucky to find a woman who's met more than three or four.

Many women hesitate to meet new men primarily because they're afraid of strangers. Given two choices, they'd much rather stick with what they know, and that usually means a small, tight-knit network of friends. And if you don't make any effort to meet any great new men out there, then chances are you'll be the town's best-kept secret for a long, long time.

Here are a few tips to get you started on meeting new men:

Tip #1: Stop making excuses for not meeting new men. Most women make the excuse that they're nervous when it comes to meeting someone new, and would much rather wait to be found by men. After all, it's their "job" to make the first move, right?

Unfortunately, men also feel the same kind of nervousness that you feel - sometimes to an even greater extent. Many men are actually terrified of making the first move, no matter what great life partners they would otherwise be. So for your sake, don't be shy to make the connection.

Tip #2: Decide you want to change things. Since you're reading this article, I'll bet that you have a good measure of doubt in yourself when it comes to meeting someone new. You probably don't know how to approach the guy or initiate the conversation, and probably wonder time and again whether or not to make your move.

Like solving most other problems, the first thing you have to let go of is fear. When you get rid of the fear and decide that you really, truly want to change things for the better, then you open the door to a million great possibilities for your love life.

Tip #3: Stop thinking of yourself as single. It's simple, really: If you think you're fat, then you'll act like your fat, and chances are that he'll think you're fat, too. Same goes with thinking you're unattractive or uninteresting. If you think of yourself as single, then you send out bad vibes that could turn off otherwise great men.

Instead, start thinking of yourself as alive. Go out and present yourself unapologetically, and be open to whatever life throws your way.

Tip #4: Stop wondering if he's interested and DO something. If you feel that the guy glancing at you from across the room is attracted to you, and if you feel the same kind of attraction towards him, then don't wait for him to make the first move. He probably won't do a thing and you'll spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been.

Present yourself. Make for the bar or the balcony, where you can give him the opportunity to approach you. I mean, would it kill you to wink at him when you go for another drink?

Good luck!

A. Aaron